October 1, 2018

The Lonely Moms Club

Can you keep a secret?

Motherhood can be a very lonely place. Don’t get me wrong—I am grateful, thankful, #blessed beyond belief to be a mom, but the honest reality is that sometimes…being a mom can be incredibly isolating.

I realized this brutal truth about five years ago. My husband and I had just relocated to the valley with our toddler-aged daughter, where we didn’t know a soul. I was a full-time stay-at-home mom, so my days were spent managing tantrums, watching Barney, going to the park, and picking up Cheerios off of the floor. The days felt long and sometimes mundane. And oftentimes, I would find myself feeling very lonely. The summer heat that hits the valley came on thick that summer, and I found myself trapped indoors with my daughter, making it that much harder to branch out and meet new people. I wanted desperately to make friends with other moms who were in the very same season of life that I was in.

My family had attended Cornerstone for a few months when they started announcing something called “Mom2Mom.” It was a place for moms of young children, just like me, who were looking for connection, maybe even some people to commiserate with, and to get a small break from the long days of motherhood. It gave me hope. Maybe this would be the place for me to find my people.

I showed up to the first meeting feeling like the new kid at school. I was surrounded by moms of all shapes and sizes. Some came flustered, wearing yoga pants, carrying diaper bags and sippy cups, and surrounded by a brood of children. Others were more put together, wearing carefully accessorized outfits and fresh makeup. After we dropped off our children in the hands of kind childcare workers, we gathered together in a room that smelled of homemade brunch and hot coffee. There weren’t any rules or expectations in this room. I didn’t know what to do or where to go when a friendly face greeted me. “Is this your first time?” she asked me. “Yes,” I said. “Welcome! We are so glad you came! Come and sit at my table.” It was that easy.

I came, I sat, and I was immediately introduced to new people. I got to connect with other moms, some just starting their motherhood journey, and some who were further along in the journey. We got to talk, share our stories, and enjoy uninterrupted time together. Two hours later, I left the meeting refreshed and encouraged and a little bit more hopeful.

Week after week, I came back. There, I was able to share in my frustrations of mom life. I was able to enjoy a long, leisurely breakfast (that I didn’t have to make!!!) and sip my coffee amongst other moms just like me. I was able to hear from live speakers, moms who have been doing this much longer than me, who helped to encourage me and point me closer to Jesus in the sometimes-messy journey of motherhood. It became a place I looked forward to being each month, a place that guaranteed time for myself and time for the connection that I so desperately needed.

 

Mom2Mom ended up being a safe place for me to go as a mom. I made friends, I built lifelong connections at my new church, and most importantly, I found a place that made me feel a little bit less alone.

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If you are a mom of young children and you are looking for community and connection with other moms in the same season as you, look no further. Mom2Mom meets the first and third Thursday of every month from 9:30 to 11:30 a.m. There is a minimal cost for childcare and registration. Visit here to register. You won’t regret it.

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Rae Lynn Lott serves as the director of life groups at Cornerstone. When she’s not getting people connected into groups, she can be found doing life with her husband, Chris, and their two kids, Emmersyn and Hunter.


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